“…Jesus also, that He might sanctify the people with His own blood, suffered outside the gate. Therefore let us go forth to Him, outside the camp, bearing His reproach” (Hebrews 13:12-13).
A pastor once told me that he appreciated the ministry of Jews for Jesus but could not invite us to speak in his pulpit. He had what he felt was a good relationship with the rabbi across the street, with an annual pulpit exchange. “I have an opportunity to be a witness through this pulpit exchange,” he explained. “By inviting Jews for Jesus, I would be forfeiting that opportunity.”
I carefully pointed out that his opportunity was only an opportunity if he could say something that would truly challenge his Jewish friends to consider Christ. Further, if anything he said or did ever resulted in a synagogue member coming to faith in Jesus, those pulpit exchanges would probably come to a screeching halt. Sadly, I don’t think that pastor was willing to give up the notion that friendship with the rabbi was somehow a prerequisite to evangelism and the fulfillment of his Christian duty.
Many Christians today seem to think that gaining the acceptance of unbelieving Jewish people is the way to gain a platform for the gospel. Unfortunately, things usually do not work out that way. Some people speak about “earning the right” to witness. While it seems like a humble thing to say, many people fail to see how that statement contradicts Scripture. The Bible teaches that proclaiming the gospel is an obligation to be fulfilled, not a right to be earned. The idea that people must accept us before they can accept Y’shua (Jesus) can actually become a subtle kind of pride that we fail to recognize in ourselves and our fellow believers.
We hear much about relational or “friendship” evangelism, but the Bible says “…Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God” (James 4:4, emphasis added).
I’m not saying we should treat unbelievers like enemies, nor should we be “unrelational,” unfriendly, or rude! Nevertheless, when we make friendship with unbelievers our first priority, Jesus gets short shrift. Few Christians intend to shunt Jesus off to the side. Most who never quite get around to giving a clear cut gospel message don’t even realize they are sacrificing their gospel witness on the altar of human acceptance.
Once, when I was speaking at a church, a woman approached me after the service. She was pleased to inform me that her roommate and best friend in college was Jewish, and that she had maintained their friendship over many years. When I asked if she ever talked to her friend about Jesus, she responded, “Oh no, I’d be too afraid of offending her.” I affirmed her desire to remain friends but suggested, “Perhaps what you fear even more than offending her is the possibility that she might reject you.” I’m afraid that woman took offense at my suggestion, but I had to do what she was not willing to do: risk being rejected for the sake of an important truth—a truth more important than my being liked or accepted.
It is easy to allow ourselves to believe that our silence is out of respect for those who might disagree with us. It is easy to see our motivation as noble, especially when we see our ultimate intention as positioning ourselves to be a better witness. But unfortunately, too often those intentions come to nothing, and we need to face the truth that sometimes our tact and our long-term intentions are merely masks that cover our natural fear of rejection and our reluctance to position ourselves where God really wants us: in a place of vulnerability.
We need to be honest about our own hesitation to witness, and we need to be realistic about this matter of offending others. God wants us to be loving and humble when we tell others about Him. Yet even the most inoffensive manner cannot guarantee that people will not take offense at what we have to say. Ultimately, people decide the basis on which they will or will not be offended, and sometimes taking offense is their best defense against the gospel.
–David Brickner, Jews for Jesus, “Outside the Camp,” JFJ Newsletter, Sept. 27, 2010